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Dear Agony Auntie
Sep. 16th, 2006 11:19 amLet me posit a hypothetical situation.
A friend was summoned to her child's school becaue the child had wilfully struck another child in the playground, The mother of the victim was actively calling for expulsion.
As this happened to a friend, I want to be helpful and supportive. I have been appraised of the stresses in the child's life, and I want use my experience with children in care and in secure accommodation to help my friend to find a way through the problem and to help the child to see that violence is not a solution.
On the other hand, I was myself severely bullied at school. I felt then, and still feel, that my principal tormentor got lots of care and sympathy and understanding and attention, while nobody much cared about me. Instead I got punished for such heinous offences as not doing homework, largely because going to school was enouigh of an ordeal without takling it home with me. Part of me wants to cry out that bullying is caused by nasty sadistic little thugs who deserve punishment, not understanding.
So, I bite my tongue and I don't support my friend.
So, Agony Aunties and Uncles, in this, I stress, hypothetical situation, what would you do?
A friend was summoned to her child's school becaue the child had wilfully struck another child in the playground, The mother of the victim was actively calling for expulsion.
As this happened to a friend, I want to be helpful and supportive. I have been appraised of the stresses in the child's life, and I want use my experience with children in care and in secure accommodation to help my friend to find a way through the problem and to help the child to see that violence is not a solution.
On the other hand, I was myself severely bullied at school. I felt then, and still feel, that my principal tormentor got lots of care and sympathy and understanding and attention, while nobody much cared about me. Instead I got punished for such heinous offences as not doing homework, largely because going to school was enouigh of an ordeal without takling it home with me. Part of me wants to cry out that bullying is caused by nasty sadistic little thugs who deserve punishment, not understanding.
So, I bite my tongue and I don't support my friend.
So, Agony Aunties and Uncles, in this, I stress, hypothetical situation, what would you do?
